Don’t use the annoying moniker ‘dear’

In recent times several of my friends have expressed dislike for the way they are addressed by waitresses, cashiers and trades people

In recent times several of my friends have expressed dislike for the way they are addressed by waitresses, cashiers and trades people.

The problem is the word  “dear,“ as in, “do you need help, dear?” Even when speaking on the phone to merchants, it’s inevitable that word pops up, “do you have any questions, dear?”

One friend phoned a local business and in doing so mentioned her age of 81years, immediately the tone changed and she was there on called “dear.”

It seems we need to keep in mind, that everybody has lived a life, raised families, had heartaches and challenges and probably lived through awful wars, as they did in England with many plucky Canadians fighting alongside them.

These hardships toughen a person’s resolve but also gives a new perspective on life, one where no matter your pedigree, people pooled their meager resources to help each other in time of need.

Might be a thought to remember next time we are chatting with an elderly person, ask about their history… you may receive an enchanting trip into the past.

Also use their name, or even sir or madam. “Dear” could be annoying.

These seniors built the country we all enjoy. They are entitled to our respect.

Margaret J. Jestico




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