North Saanich woman hopes missing urn turns up

Renate Herberger wonders how a glued-down urn with her son's ashes could go missing.

North Saanich’s Renate Herberger sits at a memorial bench that commemorates her late son

Renate Herberger misses her son, Silvan, who died tragically in 2012.

The North Saanich woman is feeling the hurt of losing a son all over again after discovering last month that an urn containing a portion of Silvan’s cremated remains has gone missing from a park bench.

Herberger had glued a colourful, small urn to a bench along the Scoter Trail below Tapping Road off of West Saanich Road in Deep Cove on the Saanich Peninsula. It was a remembrance, she says, and a place to visit to connect with her feelings and to heal.

That urn, however, is missing.

Herberger says she placed the urn there in September 2014. After returning from a long distance swimming trek on March 10, she visited the bench and it was still there.

“Within 24 hours … it was gone,” she says.

Herberger says she thinks someone had to have pried the urn from the bench, breaking the glue’s seal.

It is an eight-sided, hand-painted urn of Mexican design, itself sealed with a bag of ashes inside.

She says whoever took it probably didn’t know what it was and she hopes they’ll return it.

Herberger has reported the loss to the RCMP but isn’t holding out hope that the police will find it.

“I just want it brought back,” she says, adding she feels the loss of the urn personally.

The bench itself has a plaque dedicated to her son, Silvan Skye Valeska Herberger, and she doesn’t understand how someone could, in essence, rob a memorial site.

She hopes by getting the word out, someone might know something, or the urn will be returned to the bench.

“It was my place to meditate, a place of remembrance of life.”

Silvan was only 23 when he took his life, something Herberger, who gave an interview to the PNR in September of 2014, thinks of every day.

“He was so young and he had his whole life ahead of him. He was an incredibly passionate, loyal and beautiful luminous individual, and that’s how I will always remember him,” she said.

Just Posted

Supreme Court Judge rules medicinal marijuana company must vacate farm in Central Saanich

Evergreen Medicinal Supply Inc must vacate no later than Aug. 31, 2019

‘Best in the country’: Formerly homeless man praises Victoria’s outreach services

Jay W. was living on the streets of downtown Victoria in 2018

Time-lapse video shows weekend work on McKenzie Interchange project

Construction crews place concrete underpass bridge beams

Years of ‘horrific, violent accidents’ at Thetis Lake prompt plea to public

View Royal fire chief asks for an end to alcohol consumption at busy park

City of Victoria plans workshop to determine fate of Sir John A. Macdonald statue

Conversations will happen as part of a reconciliation dialogue series in May 2020

VIDEO: Man found dead near B.C. teens’ truck could be linked to a double homicide

RCMP said they are looking for Kam McLeod, 19, and Bryer Schmegelsky, 18, of Port Alberni

Latest plan is to fly trapped fish by helicopter over Big Bar slide

Multi-pronged plan set in motion to freesalmon blocked by landslide in the Fraser River

Family of missing B.C. senior with dementia frustrated with situation, heartened by community support

Nine days since Grace was last seen the question remains: ‘How can an 86-year-old just disappear?’

Police ask for help locating missing men last seen in South Surrey

Jeep that Richard Scurr and Ryan Provencher were in has been located unoccupied in Logan Lake: RCMP

Okanagan Air Cadet challenges gender-exclusive haircut policy

Haircut regulation inspires challenge around gender identity

VIDEO: Bystander training gains traction as tool to prevent sexual harassment, violence

Julia Gartley was sexually assaulted after an event, and no one stepped in to help

Sexual assaults, extortion on the rise even as crime rates stay low: Stats Canada

Rates of police-reported sexual assault rose for the fourth year in a row

Vancouver Island teens missing after vehicle found ablaze near Dease Lake, BC

RCMP say a body discovered nearby not one of the missing teens

Most Read